The feminine touch, but what about the masculine?

Adrian George Nicolae
3 min readMar 7, 2021

Touching. We all need that once in a while, from someone, in our lives, right?
And the most common ones are handshakes, a hand on the shoulder, or a hug. But I’m sure you already knew that.
However, what you may not know, or understand, is that females get significantly more touches than males, and that affects them in different ways.
For instance, a girl is generally always hugged by her parents, maybe siblings, maybe other girls at school, high school, and then university, and eventually work. And that can fill her up with warmth, smiles, and other good feelings.
A boy doesn’t get many hugs apart from his mom, and occasionally dad, and some relatives here and there. And that can fill him up with sadness, hatred, and make him see the world with different eyes.
Now, I’m not sure where that stems from, maybe years of indoctrination of trying to make boys grow up faster and become masters of their domain, but besides the psychological aspect, there’s a cultural aspect.
With females, you’re being led to believe that that’s what they do. They meet, they hug, they smile, and they seem to radiate these pheromones of happines.
With males, on the other hand, how many times have you seen non-gay males hug?
I know I haven’t seen it that much, maybe like a tap on the shoulder, or a London hug, which nobody likes but does regardless.
And I mentioned that word, gay, which may upset someone, yet that’s a word I heard growing up, directed towards boys, and even men, who were trying to be human, instead of soulless husks.

Why is there such animosity towards males who show affection and why is there such a need to make a word that less than 100 years ago meant joviality, and is now related to a sexual preference, become a slur?
And what I find pequliar is that this is happening more in countries with a high percentage of religious people or who are ruled by dictators. The lack of tolerance, I mean.

The idea for writing about this came from the French movie Amelie. Classic movie about an introverted girl who uses her feminine touch to make the lives of those around her…

Adrian George Nicolae

Writer, comedian, improviser, deviser, creative git. And vegan.